Things get prioritized in the order of importance. It sounds straightforward but for some people it's complicated, because everything in their life seems to be complicated.
When some say it's complicated, it never is. I know that someone will point out the obvious thing to do, which is never ever what they really want to do. The right thing is the harder thing, and in the way of cliches it's the least popular because it's the most true.
But some things aren't complicated and don't have a complicated solution. Some things in life just need to end. Immediate termination. Like a boyfriend who wants to be #1 priority when the girl can't even find twenty minutes to do her nails. Or a person so amoral and possessive they hurt those around the person they're upset with, instead of the person they're actually upset with. People just need to get cut off at certain points. Whether it's one party's fault or the others, it has to happen because it's the right thing to do. It's not always so hard to say no.
Which is not to say it's always not so hard, because priorities are a bitch. I prioritize my friends' well being over mine and it has been working out. My own well being, however, is so far down on the list. When I get hurt, nobody sees me cry. Because it's not their problem. It's my problem. And my problems are no one's concern. The ones I cause that get my friends hurt? Those I fix. With those there is swift understanding, planning, and execution.
My problems are my delusion. My arrogant, self centered delusion encouraged by my own laziness.
Thank God it's Friday.
Your problems are real for you and you are very hard on yourself. Priorities are hard for everyone, really. It's something that takes a lifetime to understand. You have challenges...Take care of yourself and be gentle.
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