However, I also have limited funds. Deferring a semester has been a debate I've been having with myself, my parents, my friends, and my teachers for the past year. My mother thought it was a total mistake, that I would forget everything I've ever learned and that deferring would make it harder on myself.
My friends and my teachers seemed to think it would be a good idea though, to start in the spring rather than the fall. I happen to agree, now that I'm basically halfway through the fall semester. I still live with my parents, they still want me out, and I still want out. So clearly, this was a mistake.
The only reason I did stay was to watch my brother. Because despite my earlier posts about how I can't save anyone that doesn't want to be saved, I really want to save him. And for all of the reasons to defer for the spring and start again next fall, I still really fear falling behind in my studies if I do.
So the question is, if I didn't have all these external factors unrelated to my education, would it still be a good idea to defer? My mother makes it seem like I'll suffer terminal brain injury. She says it gets harder to go back the longer it gets put off. Which honestly, again my ego has gone haywire, and I don't think anything less than an Adonis could make me brain dead stupid. The problem is I don't know anyone that's deferred a semester to work that has actually gone back to school yet, and I don't want to get stuck in a job and an apartment with three roommates to keep working to live. If I'm not careful, that could turn into what the rest of my life looks like rather than something temporary.
Is deferring a rudimentary mistake for an education and a career?
Your honesty amazes me and the authenticity of your struggle is very relatable and real. You have a special gift for writing, Kat, Keep doing it.
ReplyDeleteAs to you thoughts about deferring, well, after my first year of college I took a semester off because I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I worked. I played. I moved back home after a year away. I don't think it was a mistake as it all worked out as it was supposed to. Ended up starting my second year of college in January instead and was able to make up the lost semester in 2 summers so that I could still graduate on time. Only you can decide what is right for you and if you look within, that right answer will show itself. Don't allow anyone else to have the power to make this choice for you. I'm sure there are merits on both sides. Do what feels right :) Hope that helps